Masturbation for Girls

For those of you that wish to remain on the str8 and narrow path of sex with guys, you need to be able to tell him where to touch you, how to touch you, etc., in order to ensure that you get your O during sex as well. If you haven’t masturbated, you cannot truly know where your “good stuff” is, and it can be hard to explain to him what he can do to help you in your quest for the O during sex – esp. if you’re having trouble hitting the O.

For those of you who wish to explore the sensuality of a female sexual partner, not only does the above apply, but knowing where your sensitive spots are will give you a major advantage the first time you go into a sexual experience with another girl. While different things feel good to different girls, there are some that are universal, and once you discover what those are on your body, you’ll find that they translate extremely well into sex with another body built like yours.

The Mindset

I never knew until I started working on sexuality issues that there were girls that did not masturbate (or claimed not to). I just assumed everyone did. As I’ve stated before, there are girls who are raised to believe that anything having to do with sex is a bad thing (intentionally or not). Some of this comes from the family’s lack of openness about sex, some from religious influences (what legitimate religion would decry self-pleasure???), some from societal attitudes (girls who enjoy sexuality are “sluts,” etc.), and some from just bad information.

Folks, it is *your* body – you own it, you get to decide what makes it feel good, what doesn’t, how to touch it, etc. If you don’t figure out what makes it feel good sexually, how can you explain it to someone you’re having sex with? Now, if you don’t care if he (or she) gets you off, then I suppose you’d have a valid argument for not masturbating. I have yet to meet anyone who didn’t want to get off during sex, though. Your partner might have problems with that as well since, if they can’t make you experience the throes of orgasmic ecstasy, then they might feel like they’ve failed in bed. Not a good thing! The fact that anyone is missing out on an orgasm because they are ashamed to touch themselves makes me feel very, very sad. ;-(

Masturbation not only feels really good, but it also relieves stress, tension, and in many cases menstrual cramps. And, of course, it allows you to enjoy sexual pleasure when there’s not a partner in your life. Learning how to masturbate correctly will build your sexual self-confidence and allow you to get over some of your inhibitions.

One of the central components of masturbating properly is putting your mind in the right place, and this is where “fantasy” comes in. Almost everyone who masturbates uses fantasy to one degree or another. And, since it is your fantasy, you get to decide how far you want to take it. There’s no such thing as a bad fantasy, wrong fantasy, etc. If you want to be gangbanged by 10 guys you know, or if you just want to spend a soft sensual evening with a close female friend, there’s nothing that says you cannot fantasize about those scenarios when you are masturbating. Fantasy is a place where it is perfectly acceptable for you to do whatever you want to do. Nothing is “too” raunchy here.

If you don’t have the creativity to build fantasies like you want to envision, read some erotica or use the Internet and find some porn (I think you can find that on the net now! lol) Using porn is perfectly acceptable – that’s one of the reasons it is there. Guys do it all the time, and I’ve known a few girls who use it a bit themselves.

Some girls will have problems fantasizing about doing someone other than their BF if they are currently involved in a relationship – they will see that as “cheating” in one form or another. I personally disagree with that, but only you can decide what is acceptable fantasy for you and what isn’t. And keep in mind that masturbation doesn’t have to be a solo activity – masturbating in front of someone (done legally - lol) can be *very* erotic.

You can also use your masturbation time to hone your “dirty talk” skills. Dirty talk when having sex can be a huge turn on for your partner. Many girls are very uncomfortable with the idea of talking dirty, even during sex. If, while you’re fantasizing, you talk that way to yourself (quietly, if you’re afraid someone will hear you! lol), then you can work on perfecting phrases you can use in bed with your partner. You can also feel free to moan, scream, etc. while you’re getting yourself off as well. Just like dirty talk, moaning during intense sex can be a huge turn on for your partner.

Feel free to position yourself in front of a mirror where you can watch yourself masturbate as well. Some people aren’t comfortable doing that, but watching the female form during an orgasm can be an intense, erotic experience.

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